still strange after all these years

My name is Jason Sperber, a.k.a. daddy in a strange land [or disl for short, pronounced as in Vin], and I’m a dadblogger.

I started  this blog in January 2006, when my first daughter was almost 15 months old. Though I’d been reading parenting blogs, especially those by dads, SAHDs, and moms and dads of color, since before The Pumpkin was born, I only took the leap to the other sidewhen the release of Apple’s iWeb application promised to allay my fears of html with drag-and-drop simplicity.

Four years later, everything’s simple and I don’t have to know any html at all [even though I did grudgingly learn some, since my co-founder and I launched Rice Daddies, the group blog by Asian American dads, on Blogger a few short weeks after I started blogging as daddy in a strange land]. And so, I’m using this relaunch after a long and unintended hiatus to ditch iWeb and move over to WordPress. [So please, if there’s anyone out there who remembers me and has old urls or rss links on blogrolls or rss readers, go ahead and update date them. will now redirect to this WordPress blog.]

I haven’t blogged in over a year, and that break was unplanned and thus unannounced. A lot has happened in the intervening time, including:

  • la dra. [the love of my life and an amazing family physician dedicated to fomenting social change for the betterment of the health of all] and I both turned 36;
  • we celebrated our 12th wedding anniversary;
  • The Pumpkin [our big girl] graduated from her Montessori preschool, started and graduated from kindergarten; and turned 5;
  • The Button [our little girl] turned 1 and finally started walking, growing teeth, and talking;
  • and oh yeah, after transitioning from working full-time outside the home in social media, digital journalism, and online community management, from when The Pumpkin turned 2 until The Button was born a little over 2 years later, to working half-time wholly from home to be home with our little newbie, I quit my job, becoming a full-time SAHD again.

At the time of this blog relaunch, it’s been about three months, or a quarter of a year, since I left my non-parenting, paycheck-providing gig, and though I’m still looking, I haven’t found any new part-time/telecommuting gigs that involve writing or social media or education or social justice or parenting, those myriad things I’m passionate about.

And so, finally, after much laziness and hemming and hawing, I’m getting my ass back in the writing saddle and blogging again. I’ve got a novel-waiting-to-be-born banging around in my head, sharing company with a long-time dream of a non-profit venture that may finally see the light of day. And of course, more stories from life with my amazing girls and my beautiful, talented and (com)passionate partner-in-life.

I gave myself this nom de blog, and named this blog after it, because, as a self-described progressive, mixed-race, person of color living in a outwardly-seeming homogeneous, conservative place, being a stay-at-home-dad was just one more way I was different, out there, other—strange. But from my point of view, I was the one sojourning in a strange land, and blogging was one way I could process it all, vent about it, laugh about it.

Now,  over seven years after moving there and almost six years after becoming a dad, I know that “strange” isn’t always bad—that it can be a good thing, a challenge. Strange is what you make of it. And finally, I’m back to write it all down.


About Jason Sperber

Jason Sperber is a stay-at-home-dad of 2 daughters, a writer, and a professional ice cream taster in Bakersfield, California. Once upon a time, he was an OG dadblogger at daddy in a strange land and co-founded Rice Daddies, the seminal group blog by Asian American dads. He is a co-founding writer of, and is the resident hapa Trekkie at, The Nerds Of Color. Follow him on Twitter at @dad_strangeland and on Instagram at @jasonsperber.
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7 Responses to still strange after all these years

  1. tara says:

    Welcome back, Jason! I am inspired by your blog re-launch and have considered doing the same, that is, moving to WordPress and using my real name. Congratulations on having created a wonderful and satisfying life for yourself, and for your new media stardom!

  2. Superha says:

    I knew you’d come back. 🙂 So glad you did.

  3. bushelandapeck says:

    It’s a bird! No, it’s a plane! No, it’s Daddy in a Strange Land!

  4. Pam T says:

    love that you’re back! I’m now inspired to follow.

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  6. Lisa Wuertz says:

    I’m not sure anyone feels normal! I thought I had escaped it moving away from the “strange land,” but I am finding it not to be the case the more I get to know people.

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